When Life Throws You A Curveball

It all started with a limp. My wife and I thought that our four year old son (Shaan) was having growing pains when he was complaining about pain in his lower left leg.

On April 8th, 2010, my world was rocked when my son was diagnosed with Leukemia, which is a blood cancer.

Childhood cancer is extremely rare and since there was no history of cancer in either of our families, this hit me like a freight train going 1,000 kilometers an hour.

There were over a million questions racing through my mind such as what, where, when, why and how?  There is no reason why leukemia happens in children and in some cases, babies are even born with it.

They immediately started chemotherapy treatment on Shaan and started looking at what specific type of Leukemia had started in his body.

Thank God he was diagnosed as having Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia (ALL), which is considered a “good” blood cancer in terms of treatment. The cure rate is as high as 90% with proper treatment.

I cancelled all my travel plans and Internet marketing activities. I cancelled my trip to System Seminar in Chicago. I cancelled my presentation at the Magic Bullet Seminar and dropped out of Jeff Johnson’s “Traffic Voodoo” course as one of the content providers.

I also cancelled my MobiBlueprint product launch.

Nothing seemed to matter to me anymore.

I stayed with my son every day and night since he was admitted on April 5th and after 43 days of being at the hospital, we both came home yesterday.

He has a long road ahead of him with an additional 22 months of treatment, but the prognosis looks good as he is now in remission.

Some of the things I learned from this experience:

1. No more spending 10 hours in front of the computer each day. Life is too short to spend in front of a monitor all day.

2. Money doesn’t mean much without health. Health is the real wealth.

3. No more complaining about paying taxes. Health care is free in Canada and the care that was provided for Shaan can’t be matched in terms of quality.

4. I need to restructure my business. As soon as I stopped working and disappeared, my employees were left twiddling their thumbs.

5. Charity. If the wealthiest people in the world just gave up 10% of their assets, it would solve problems such as world hunger. It is time for all of us who have been blessed with wealth to start giving more.

If you are a parent, I hope you NEVER have to go through this experience and if your child ever complains of any small aches or pains, get it checked immediately.

Shaan is a fighter and he will come out of this stronger.

Take care,

Gauher Chaudhry

597 comments

  1. Anthony Barton

    What you learned from this is absolute gold. It’s so appropriate that you have the benefit of these lessons given how much you have contributed to so many others. No doubt your life, and that of your family, will be so much greater from it.
    Thank you for sharing your life and your lessons. I greatly appreciate you, you are an absolute standout and inspriation.
    Your son has the best dad I think; hope he has a speedy recovery and the best life.

  2. Hi Gauher,
    Wondered where you’d slipped off to.
    We were sorry to hear of your family’s health issues and your little boy’s diagnosis. Having lost my only son at 8 years old to pneumonia, I know how devastating and scary it can be. My family and I send our prayers your way, and are thinking positive thoughts for your little boy’s recovery. Hang in there. You are a good man, giving and considerate. The higher powers will watch over you. You are right. Time to stop and smell the roses. God bless.
    Lee Hansen

  3. Gauher,

    You and your family are in our prayers.

    – Dave P.

  4. Neil

    Gauher,

    Thanks for sharing that. The internet is infamous for absorbing allllll of our attention.

    That’s a brutal wake-up call. But as you expressed, even given the bad news, you are quite fortunate.

    Wishing all the best to you and your family.

    Thanks again,

    Neil

  5. A very touching addition to your blog about how you have to overcome everything with your sons illness and put life in God’s hands. Many more special prayers for continued health, as I too have to regroup my personal business priorities. You are so correct when saying that health is wealth. Continue to stay positive my friend.

    Tyger

  6. Shaan,

    My dad has Multiple Myeloma which is another type of blood cancer. He is in remission.

    I know how scary being sick can be. I also know that the doctors have some amazing treatments now.

    I hope you get better quickly and get back to being a happy young man.

    tom o.

  7. Gauher nothing happens without good intentions, so may I from the bottom of my heart thank you for all your good support and sharing great knowledge, I trust you and your family will realize the dream living the most of everyday. “The purpose of life is a life of purpose” – Robert Byrne

  8. Larry Brophy

    Gauher,

    It’s often hard to understand why ‘bad’ things happen to good people. Like you and Shaan.

    Know that thousands of people are now sending Shaan prayers and healing thoughts for a full and complete recovery.

    It’s amazing how it sometimes takes an event like this to help us all put our priorities in proper order. Thanks for sharing.

    Larry

  9. Hi Gauher,

    Your blog sent me goosebumps… I am a dad of two young kids. Your blog definitely made me think about the time that I need to spend with my wife and kids.

    I truly wish you and your family the best and I see that your son is a fighter and a happy kid 😉

    Thank you for the reminder.

    Cheers and many blessings to you and your family.
    Adrian

  10. Faisal Khan

    Gauher,

    I wish you and your family all the best through this tough time, and I will keep you in my prayers.

    khan

  11. Kevin

    I hope that your son recovers very soon and will live a long and healthy life.

    Wishing you and your family a safe and healthy future,

    Kevin

  12. Alex Edgington

    Wishing you and your family well. Hope all goes well.

    Alex

  13. Hi Gauher,

    Knowing your persistence in working on everything till you succeed, I’m sure you’re apply that same level of determination to help get both Shaan and your family through this situation.

    Take care and it’s good to hear that there’s good that might come out of your challeging circumstances.

  14. Hi Gauher,
    I’m sorry to hear what had happened to you and your kid. I am a father of two too, so I can imagine what it will be like if I were at your situation. Anyway, wish Shaan can have a speedy recovery. I agree that health is real wealth.

    Rick

  15. Don Bethune

    My prayers are with you and your entire family Gauher. May God grant a quick, full, and permanent recovery for Shaan. Can’t begin to imagine what you’ve all been going through.

    Don

  16. Rebekah

    So glad to hear that Shaan is in remission. Lovely photo of proud Dad with beautiful boy!

    Best wishes for you and your entire family as you continue to face this ordeal, Gauher.

  17. Chris Stephen

    Hi Gauher,

    My wife lost her battle with breast cancer 13 years ago leaving me with 3 children between the ages of 18 months and 6 years to look after. Losing anyone within your immediate family is traumatic. Remember that no matter what happens, the sun will still rise and the birds will keep singing. Don’t stop smelling the roses. Our Health is our wealth. Our children are our assets…not money. Look after your son..but don’t forget your wife. She’s the polisher who’s making your son shine like a diamond.

    New and struggling Affiliate

    Chris (Balan) Stephen

  18. Dale Pillars

    Hey G, I’m elated to hear that the prognosis is as positive as it is, considering the circumstances. It does make you stop and re-assess life and business. Your insights do resonate greatly with me…

    A prayer for Shaan for complete and total recovery.

    Stay in high spirits, as hard as it may seem at times. Remain positive…

    Sincerely,

    Dale Pillars

  19. Dear Gaugher,

    My heart goes out to you and your family and my prayers are with you and your family for the speedy recovery of your beautiful son Shaan.

    What you have said above is so very true, at the end of the day all the money in the world cannot buy happiness and health.

    Life is a cycle with highs and lows and ultimately it is our faith in the superior being and will and strength to overcome adversity that will ultimately yield a positive outcome. We will continue to pray for Shaan’s good health and speedy recovery.

    God Bless!!!!!!!!

  20. Venkata

    This is really shocking. I pray lord Balaji and hope things go well. I wish him a speedy recovery. Be courageous and face this tough times. By god’s grace, things will go in favor of you and your family. May god bless you and your family.
    Venkata

  21. Judy

    It is truly remarkable how quickly we are brought to our knees when it concerns our kids, and it is out of our control. My prayers go out to you and your family Gauher. Hang in there and fight the invisable beast!

    Give my regards to your family!

  22. Evgeny Ivanovich Podzharov

    Hi Gauher,

    Best wishes to you and your son and complete prompt recovery.

    Evgeny

  23. Greg

    Gauher,

    My wife’s younger brother had leukemia pretty much his whole life. He was quite a guy. She tells me he never complained – was very positive.

    My prayers and best wished go to Shaan and your family. He’s lucky to have a dad like you.

    Take care of what you need to do and we’ll look forward to learning from you when you get back. You’re right about health being the real wealth.

    Greg

  24. eranga

    speedy recovery for your son, My heart goes out to you man

  25. This is not the news I would love to hear. I wish, I could help. I truly hope your son will be OK. That’s what I wish you and your family.

  26. Ron

    Gauher,

    So sorry your son and family have had to go through such a scary and difficult situation. Good to hear your son is doing well.

    I wish your son a full recovery, and strength to carry your family through the next 22 months.

    God bless.

    Ron

  27. Gautam

    Hi Gauher:

    Thanks for shearing your very personal story…

    I hope Shann will get well soon.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family!

    Best regards

  28. I am praying for your boy and your family.

    God will provide!

  29. Bayar

    I know your world was turned upside down when your boy was diagnosed with leukaemia.But I hope you and your family can overcome this situation. God bless you!

  30. Lee

    Hi Gauher
    I am glad Shaan is recovering. I know what the word ‘cancer’ can do to your life, and how it rearranges your priorities usually for the better. I too have gone to a natural eating program and my cancer has not returned in 15 years. Eliminate high fructose corn syrup in food and drinks, genetically modified food (soy, corn, canola and cotton), trans-fats in burgers, fries and margarines, toxic cleaning and personal hygiene products. Cancer can’t survive without sugar. Whole foods, organic fruit and vegetables, grass fed beef, wild salmon, raw seeds and nuts were what out ancestors ate to survive. Juice raw veggies and don’t eat anything white, except plain yogurt.
    May you all have many happy healthy years together.
    Lee

  31. Adam H

    Salam Bro Gauher,

    Sorry to hear the stress you have been under, been thinking you have been quiet.
    Thank God Shaan was diagnosed early and is now undergoing treatment and with all the blessings and prayers from us and around the world he will no doubt be on a rapid recovery.
    I am very sure Shaan is a fighter like his father.

    Many thanks for sharing your story and the lessons you have learnt, It makes us all realise how lucky and blessed we are for having our health but as humans we take things for granted. It is human nature to forget and most of the time we need reminders.
    There is a saying “If you look above you, you will never be happy and if you look down below you, you will reallise how lucky and blessed you really are.”

    May Allah Bless you and your family.

    Adam

  32. Glad to hear things are looking up for family! I’m sure the next we’ll meet again, this craziness will be a memory with more awesome times to look forward too! 🙂

  33. Wow. Scary. I would be devastated if that happened to either of my sons.

    Yet, from apparently bad things, good things can arise. It is good that your son has begun to recover and the lessons you have learned will add quality of life to you, your family and all around you.

    I am also hearing what you are learning and thank you for sharing your wisdom.

    I pray that God looks after you and your family.

    Krsnendu

  34. Isaac Abufhele

    Gauher,

    My prays go out to your son and his speedy recovery.

  35. Gary

    Hi Gauher,

    I know exactly what you are going through, it happened to my son as well. I’m so sorry you and your family have to endure the fear and pain that is created by this. NOTHING! makes you feel more helpless as a father. But take heart brother, you will be a better father, husband, person, and a stronger, closer family as this passes.

    If you ever need to talk to someone who has been there, don’t hesitate to contact me, you have my email. My thoughts and prayer are with you and your family.

    Gary

    PS.. cute little guy in the pic:) just needs lots of Love and Hugs

  36. Gauher, your ordeal hit ME like a freight train.

    I have a little boy who’s 5 years old. As a father myself, I fully CAN sympathise with what you went through.

    We all want the best for our little ones, and any suffering they go through hurts us 10 times more. We blame ourselves, as if it were somehow our fault. But it isn’t always so.

    You were fortunate that it was a relatively mild form of Leukemia, and that it was caught early.

    I felt your pain, and I have been through a similar episode, where I, too, learned that money without health means nothing.

    It really put my perspective on life in a whole different dimension.

    Best wishes for your little one, and my respect for being there all along, with the right priorities. – JH

  37. Scott Vincent

    Gauher,

    Hope that all goes well with your son. Our first child has special needs and it was difficult. Your ‘Inner Strengths’ will come out and you will make the right decisions.

    Our family will pray for you and we all hope for the best.

    Even before your revelation today, you prepared all of us (your Affiliate Marketing Children) to use our success for the good of others. This is and always will be my families goal with the success you have help create.

    Scott

  38. Fiona

    Wow. Thank you for sharing. Best wishes to you and your family.

    Thanks also for creating PPV, PPC, etc to enable us to become wealthy and thus be able to give generously. Well done for prioritising your son and family over business.

    Take care and please give a high 5 to Shaan from me for being such a super-kid!

  39. Chirag Brahmbhatt

    Gauher,
    Don’t worry you have transformed lifes of poor to rich, like me….. You always do good for all and helped so many people….. God will definitely look at you…….. Wishing a good, healthy and full recovery of your son.

    Chirag K Brahmbhatt.

  40. Dear Gauher
    Our family’s prayers and best wishes will be with your son, your family, and you through this challenge. We all look forward to the day when this is behind all of you and we continue to celebrate life. May the peace that excells all thought be with all of you.

  41. David S

    Thank God for the good prognosis. May He continue to bless you, your son and family.

  42. God is able and God is willing to heal. I pray that you will be strong and faith to help your son overcome, and get well soon

  43. jacques

    what can I say? take it one day at a time, and enjoy each moment you spend with Shaan. However: it´s his life, it´s his fight – with all the hospitals and doctors and treatments it´s easy to lose focus of what/who really matters; please tell him a friend from brazil is rooting for him.
    and ask him if he would like a brazilian soccer team shirt.

  44. Eric Louviere

    My prayers are with Shaan, and your family Gauher. You are a wonderful person, and I am sad to hear this news.

    I know everything will be ok, and Shaan will make a speedy full recovery. Blessings to you and your family my friend.

  45. John L

    Gauher,

    I am praying for continued recovery for Shaan.

    You certainly have your priorities in order!

    God bless!
    John

  46. Hey Gauher,

    As a father of 3 (one of them close the same age as your son), your ordeal really hit me. Like you used to be, i am also glued to my computer for over 10 hours per day. Your post really moved me, and has made me realize my priorities. I’m sure you thought long and hard if you should post this story. THANK YOU for sharing this with us! Your post will change my life, my kids lives, and i’m sure many others. All the best for you, your son, and your family. Stay Strong!
    Neil

  47. Kaz

    As a mother of a two year old it brought tears to my eyes to hear of your story. I wish your son all the best in his recovery and your family all the strength you need. Mustering up all of the positive wishes and energy that we can send to you from here in Melbourne, Australia.

    Kaz

  48. Cy

    Gauher,

    Shaan, you, and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.

    We appreciate all that you have done for your students and those whom you have helped.

    We wish your son a timely recovery and a better rest of the year.

    Sincerely,
    Cy

  49. Tim

    Best wishes to you and your family during this ordeal. God’s blessings and a speedy recovery to your young son. He’s a handsome kid, isn’t he? It’s very understandable that you haven’t been available for quite awhile. Take care of your family and never worry about the other material things that really don’t matter. Tim

  50. Gauher,

    All the best to you, your son and your family.

    Thank God that you live in a civilized country, where healthcare is payable.

    You are right about focusing on the wrong things sometimes. We all tend to take things for granted, but existence is very fragile of course.

    Thank you for letting us know. My thoughts are with you.

    JanPaul

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